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Things I Learned This Year

Reach your goal - even if it's at a tortoise pace. It does not matter how slowly you go, as long as you don't stop. I'm talking about paying off debt. I'm talking about losing weight. I'm talking about cleaning out your basement. You don't fail until you stop. So just keep going.

Be who you were meant to be - everyone else is taken. Eat on the couch of you want to. Sing in the rain. Return items you simply do not want. Cry during Sex in the City re-runs (you know, when you finally realize Aidan isn't coming back. Again.). If you want to eat soup every day for lunch, do it. If you want to draw comic books, write music and perform in plays, do it. If you want to stay home and perfect the art of motherhood, do it. Just be who you were meant to be. You'll be happier. Trust me.

Don't blame life. Life really is simple. It's the self-discipline that's hard. You already know the lessons: Be kind to one another. Don't hurl insults at other people - it's mean. Work hard. Pay your bills; it's your debt. Don't spend money if you don't have it. Show up on time. Give 100%. Be honest. Don't lie. Don't steal. Don't blame everybody else. Own your decisions.

Pepsi does not satsify my caffeine withdrawals nearly as well as Coca~Cola does. It may be purely a subconscious, self-fulfilling prophecy, but when left with a mad headache and a can of Pepsi I end up unsatisfied and frantically searching for a Coke. Sometimes that's just the way it is.

Comments

Rebecca said…
Good things to remember! I still need to work on that "show up on time" thing...
Janet said…
Simple lessons ... and brilliant! Well done :-)

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