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In His Hands

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"These scary spiders are going to go away now." He had been 'scaring' me with these silly plastic toy spiders for most of the day. He being my just turned 5-year old son. I often wonder if he would be so focused on my attention if his sister was still alive. It hits me like that: not just how my life was suddenly thrust into the spotlight of unknowns, but how his was, too. We all know days pass, decisions are made or not made, choices turn us this direction or that. Our lives are a constant stream of unknowns. What if I hadn't dated that person? What if I would have stood up for myself? What if I would have applied for that job? What if I would have moved like I dreamed I was going to? But these types of unknowns are the shadows of our lives. The ones that stay in the background, stepping forward only when called. Whereas, the what if my child was still alive?  unknowns stand bold and tall, center stage, with the spotlight shined on them morning, noon a

A Letter to my Psychology Teacher

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Dear Mr. Love, I often thought about how nice that would be to walk into a therapist's office and sit down with someone named "Love." It's a word that evokes gentleness, caring and kindness; all the things you were to me in school. Except I was a very angsty teen and you wouldn't have known I thought all that. You had the pleasure of enjoying me in your Psych 101 class. (Someone really should have given you a pay raise.) I questioned, well, everything. I peeled back layer upon layer and looked at things from every possible angle and forced you to put up with I-totally-understand-why sighs and eye rolls from pretty much every single kid in that classroom. Yet, you were always calm and patient and "up for the challenge" when dealing with me. But if I was challenging in class I was downright difficult in homeroom. You must have drawn the short straw because you were stuck as my homeroom teacher for all four years of my angsty high school career. Or, m

Life Jackets

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"The life jacket won't make you swim," I tried to explain. "You'll still need to do the work; it just keeps you from sinking." She wanted to swim so badly. She felt it was time to move from the shallow kiddie pool over to the big kid pool. But she was afraid because she didn't know how to swim. We borrowed a life jacket and strapped her in. The second the belt snapped in place she squealed, "now I can swim!" Oh, buddy, I thought. If only it were that easy. Avery and her life jacket Maybe life is like swimming and faith is like the life jacket.  Let's say you've got to swim across this huge span of water. You can't even see the other side and, while the waters appear calm and quite pleasant right now, you've heard stories of dark and stormy seas. Of waves that swell so big they threaten to swallow you whole. Of the torment the waters put on a body, making every muscle ache and lungs plead leaving you crying and